Who is a genuine person? What do you mean when you term someone as genuine?
Recently I made the unpardonable mistake of terming someone as not genuine. That got me thinking. What is this genuine? Dictionary defines it as someone “who means what they say”. But then going by that definition alone, how many among st us will be in the ‘genuine group’?
At times I have said things in tune with the mood of the moment (hmm.. is that what they call flirting nowadays?) , at times just to have the last word(and biting my tongue in the process)and at times, the worst, just so to get the hurt out(these I am sure I’ll carry with me till the end). In all these situations, and many more countless ones, did I mean all that said? No, of course not. Even though " psychobabblejabble" might say that there will be some “deep rooted truth” in all that. So am I a genuine person?
Recently I made the unpardonable mistake of terming someone as not genuine. That got me thinking. What is this genuine? Dictionary defines it as someone “who means what they say”. But then going by that definition alone, how many among st us will be in the ‘genuine group’?
At times I have said things in tune with the mood of the moment (hmm.. is that what they call flirting nowadays?) , at times just to have the last word(and biting my tongue in the process)and at times, the worst, just so to get the hurt out(these I am sure I’ll carry with me till the end). In all these situations, and many more countless ones, did I mean all that said? No, of course not. Even though " psychobabblejabble" might say that there will be some “deep rooted truth” in all that. So am I a genuine person?
Yes, I believe I am !
Now, before you, "highmoraled" ones ‘guffaw’ let me clarify.
Opening my mouth only to utter the deeply meaningful stuff has never been my style. Many a times I have said things in haste and regretted in leisure. At times the words just tumble out of my mouth on their own violation! and much to my surprise !! that I get an out of body experience due to embarrassment(yes, here, I do need a psychoanalyst)
But if there is a clarity or truth in the intention of what you say…then that is genuine. If you apologise to someone knowing that what you did was right, even after giving it a benefit of doubt to the other person, but apologise anyway for the hurt caused, because after all an apology is for the hurt, then that is genuine.
There can be genuineness in sweet talk too. Sweet talk with the aim of making someone smile and giving oneself a smile(& not with the devious aim of getting benefit out of that) is genuine. Not all sweet talk is hollow.(Ok OK if you insist I’ll call it flirting) How many times have we smiled to self recollecting a conversation and in the process relaxed completely for that split second?
So do I indulge in sweet talk = Yes
Do I apologise to others = Yes, always for any hurt, real/imaginary
Have I ever acted or said things with the intention of getting
a benefit out of it = A Resounding NO ! God help me No!
So here I am...working hard towards being a genuine person.
Stop laughing.
I am getting there .
Now, before you, "highmoraled" ones ‘guffaw’ let me clarify.
Opening my mouth only to utter the deeply meaningful stuff has never been my style. Many a times I have said things in haste and regretted in leisure. At times the words just tumble out of my mouth on their own violation! and much to my surprise !! that I get an out of body experience due to embarrassment(yes, here, I do need a psychoanalyst)
But if there is a clarity or truth in the intention of what you say…then that is genuine. If you apologise to someone knowing that what you did was right, even after giving it a benefit of doubt to the other person, but apologise anyway for the hurt caused, because after all an apology is for the hurt, then that is genuine.
There can be genuineness in sweet talk too. Sweet talk with the aim of making someone smile and giving oneself a smile(& not with the devious aim of getting benefit out of that) is genuine. Not all sweet talk is hollow.(Ok OK if you insist I’ll call it flirting) How many times have we smiled to self recollecting a conversation and in the process relaxed completely for that split second?
So do I indulge in sweet talk = Yes
Do I apologise to others = Yes, always for any hurt, real/imaginary
Have I ever acted or said things with the intention of getting
a benefit out of it = A Resounding NO ! God help me No!
So here I am...working hard towards being a genuine person.
Stop laughing.
I am getting there .
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